Addictions- Learning Self Control

There are some things we simply cannot live or do without…so-we tell ourselves. And we believe it. We become convinced of it. Thus, ‘We live addicted to it.’

Everyone is an addict. Habits- are addictions. Daily Routines- are addictions. Our daily thought patterns- are addictions.

Addiction is not limited to drug use.

And in reality- drug addiction to a substance like – weed, coke, heroin, rx pills- is the ‘secondary addiction’.

THE PRIMARY ADDICTION– will always be a repeated thought pattern turned reality. From thinking to doing. From ‘craving’ to ‘physically indulging in’.

The substance- SECONDARY- whether it be craving a drug, coffee, exercise, a relationship, another person, being prone to anger, lust, seeking recognition, power, money, self worth, or importance.

All addictions are formed and are born on the inside- not the outside of of a person.

And all are related to our lack of self control.

The following excerpt is taken from James Allen’s ‘The Life Triumphant’ Chapter 4 Self Control and Happiness

“A man is happy, wise, and great in the measure that he controls himself; he is wretched, foolish, and mean in the measure that he allows his animal nature to dominate his thoughts and actions.

He who controls himself controls his life, his circumstances, his destiny, and wherever he goes he carries his happiness with him as an abiding possession. He who does not control himself, is controlled by passions, by his circumstances, and his fate; and if he cannot gratify the desire of the moment, he is disappointed and miserable. He depends for his fitful happiness on external things.

Truly, the transformation is not instantaneous; nor is the transition a pleasant and painless process. Nature demands effort and patience as the price of growth. In the march of progress, every victory is contested with struggle and pain; but the victory is achieved, and it abides. The struggle passes; the pain is temporary only. To demolish a firmly fixed habit, to break up a mental tendency that has become automatic with long use, and to force into birth and growth a fine characteristic or lofty virtue—to accomplish this necessitates a painful metamorphosis, a transitional period of darkness, to pass through which patience and endurance are required.

This is where men fail. This is where they slip back into their old, easy, animal ruts, and abandon self-control as too strenuous and severe. Thus they fall short of permanent happiness, and the life of triumph over evil is hidden from their eyes.

A man has to learn he cannot command things, but that he can command himself; that he cannot coerce the wills of others, but that he can mold and master his own will: and things serve him who serve Truth. People seek guidance of him who is master of himself.

It is a little understood, yet simple and profound truth, that the man who cannot command himself under the severest external stress is unfit to guide others or to control affairs. It is the fundamental principle in the moral and political teachings of Confucius that, before attempting to govern affairs, a man should learn to govern himself. Men who habitually give way, under pressure, to hysterical suspicions, outbursts of resentment, and explosions of anger, are unfit for weighty responsibilities and lofty duties, and usually fail, sooner or later, even in the ordinary duties of life, such as the management of their own family or business. Lack of self-control is foolishness, and folly cannot take precedence over wisdom. “

The last paragraph, as I read it, slaps me across the face. And then again ten times more. It is exactly what I am undergoing- angry outbursts, lack of patience, carrying out simple mundane tasks that consume time. A man may be wise, but that does not prevent him from falling under the sudden grip of once more becoming unwise. Nor foolish. Knowledge is knowing of the truth. Wisdom is being able to live it- consistently.

God bless.

Published by Benmadley777

My aim is to help others make sense of their own lives, by sharing the failures and misfortunes of mine. Misfortune and failure lead a man to the unmistakable clarity of his deception- That there is no need, nor room for God, because he himself is self sufficient, well educated, rich and capable. The more the man stays his ground, holding fast to his position- the more suffering he shall bring into his life. Suffering is the ground upon which elimination of the false occurs and perception of the Truth begins. After enough time is spent courting Misery, Pain, Humiliation, Slavery, Emptiness, one seeks to stop the bleeding. Some men prefer to bleed their way to death rather than admit their ignorance; that their way will never work. While other men, surrender, which is the beginning of knowledge. By surrendering the man does not fall, he rises and steps foot upon the path of Eternal Wisdom and Truth. It is the path that leads to Eternal Life- the pursuit of knowledge, is the pursuit of Almighty God- Man's Creator. *If you have questions, concerns, need direction, prayer, you may email me.* I do not charge for what Almighty God has given me freely.

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